Fertility Help at the Dentist... ?

Yesterday I went to the dentist for my cleaning appointment.  Mind you I was already unsettled because (1) I hate going to the dentist and (2) 6 months ago when I was there I refused xrays because there was a possibility I was pregnant... and I just didn't want to be asked about that.

 

I saw a new hygienist.  She was reviewing my file before she started and asked if I was still taking a medication listed in my file.  I let her know I was and she asked if I was on it for diabetes.  I am on it, but not for diabetes, it was prescribed by my obgyn to help me get pregnant.  I told her that is why I was on it... because my husband and I were trying for a baby. Then she said to me... "You know what I recommend for that?  A bottle of wine while on vacation".

 

Now I know... she was probably just trying to be helpful... but the last thing a woman struggling to get pregnant wants to hear is "tips and tricks" from others.  Believe me when I say we have tried a vacation (July of 2011) and have consumed several bottles of wine.  We have also tried about every other trick in the book - standing on my head, relaxing, not trying, etc...

 

I am sure myself and countless others just wished like crazy all it took was a vacation and a bottle of wine... because believe me I would have booked a trip and bought a case of wine immediately after leaving their office yesterday.  

 

Here is a great article a friend shared with me - 12 Things You Should Never Ask a Woman.

Book Review - Waiting for Daisy by Peggy Orenstein

I shared last week that I had ordered this book.  It was a quick read and I enjoyed it very much.  A lot of it hit home with me. Waiting for Daisy - A Tale of Two Continents, Three Religions, Five Infertility Doctors, an Oscar, An Atomic Bomb, a Romantic Night, and One Woman's Quest to Become a Mother is definitely a book I would recommend.  It is the memoir of author, Peggy Orenstein and is a New York Times bestseller.

Here are some of the parts I marked while reading that 'hit' me for different reasons.  When I am reading I like to mark the pages or lines I want to return to.

• It's devestating.  In some ways it's even harder when you already have a child, because you know what you're missing.

• "It feels so unfair " I complained to Steven.  "Everyone else has a baby.  I've been through so much- I should get to have one, too."  "You're wrong, " he said.  "It's not unfair, Unfair is when my friend, Lynn died at forty-two.  Unfair is her daughter was only three at the time.  This is unfortunate, but it's not unfair.

• You prentend to talk about normal things, but I can tell you're thinking about fertility the whole time.  You're this angry bitter person fixated on having a baby.

• The only way to survive this is to be grateful for the two of us, for what we have together.